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August 25, 1999


I should have known that not going to the first birthday party would have its repercussions. Well as you have gathered, we didn't go. Cameron (brother-in-law) rang up on Sunday morning (day of party) to say to DH that they weren't pissed at us and if we wanted to come we were welcome, and if we didn't then that was OK, too. Then somewhere in the conversation it must have come up about how DH doesn't pick the kid up, because I heard DH say to Cameron "that he had already said to Natalie that he knows that Ethan is the centre of their world but Natalie expects him to be the centre of everyone else's also and that is not how it works." DH then went on to tell them 'again' how he wasn't a real baby person and that he didn't see the need to pick them up all of the time, and maybe he will change when he has his own, but that they have to accept that that is the way it is.

Cameron then went on about how I didn't 'talk' to Ethan that night that we went for dinner and that I shouldn't take it out on Ethan, that I should take it out on Trevor and Jacquie (DH's dad and step-mum) for the way they behave! I am now totally bemused by this comment. At the time, I was absolutely furious as they still don't get it. I wasn't pissed at Ethan or anyone else for that matter, I was just very upset and really didn't feel like picking up a baby and cooing all over him. I honestly thought that even the most insensitive person would have realised that, at that particular time, it was OK for me to not be overly social. Obviously not. Anyway, after the party, DH and I had been out all day and when we came home there was a message on our answering machine from my mother-in-law to say how disappointed she was that we weren't there and neither was Cindy. I am glad that we weren't home. That also answers my question of whether or not she was invited -- well, she was.

After that we also got a phone call from DH's grandmother to say that Natalie didn't accept the present we had got for Ethan (we gave it to Nan to give to him) because she would only accept it from us. I am now spewing that I got a personalized book because I was so mad that I would have given it to someone else. I told DH that he better ring his childish sister up and tell her that if she wanted the present she can come and get it herself, otherwise they will get it at Christmas. I don't know why I let these people get to me, my Mum keeps telling me to laugh at them and I know she is right, but I get so annoyed because DH never gets the same respect as anyone else in his family and that really gets up my nose. It is so annoying to have a sister-in-law who has everyone making excuses for her behaviour when she is a grown woman. I suppose "that's life" and I certainly can't change it.

Well the lady up the road who was split up from her husband is now going to get back together with him. I suppose that is good but it still seems a little bit strange. He is not going to move back in with her until just before the baby is born, which is still two months away. That immediately makes it look strange; I think he wants the best of both worlds, or more to the point, I don't think he wants her to have anyone else but he wants to have everything. Oh well, not my problem. My street is starting to be like Melrose Place!

On the TTC front, I am now on cycle day 16 and going by a 34 day cycle, I am due to 'O' on the 29th, which is Sunday coming. DH and I have been DTD a fair bit these last few days to make sure. I don't want to miss it! Hopefully we will be successful this cycle. I have also been checking my cervical mucous and cervical position and I have detected a change in the position in the last couple of days, so hopefully I am working this out right. I haven't noticed a great difference in the mucous though. DH doesn't know that I am doing this because I asked him about charting temps and he said that he doesn't want to go to that extreme yet, so I thought I could just do the checks and not tell him and it won't make any difference. I don't think I would be any good at charting temps anyway as I never get up at the same time and I am a heavy sleeper, so I would have trouble trying to wake up early enough. Plus, they only tell you when you have 'O'ed, not when you will. Well I managed to fall PG last time with no help, so hopefully I will this time with no problems either.

DH and I are also thinking of going on a holiday before we have a baby as we probably won't get the chance for a while after that. We are thinking of going to Bali in early October for a week. I am checking out deals at the moment so hopefully it will happen. My Mum is going to Hong Kong, Europe, England and Singapore for a month at the end of October so we thought we will go before she does because I want her to look after my little babies for me while we are gone. I mean my dogs! Mum says that is fine, we just have to "Amy proof" her backyard! That is the name of one of my pooch doggies and she likes to act like Houdini. Every opportunity she tries to escape. Defor is the other one and he is a good boy, even if Amy has got out, he stays behind. I think a lot of the reason is because he is bigger than her and he would have to dig a bigger hole to follow her and he is too lazy!

Well, I think I have rambled enough for this entry so I shall go. Hope everyone has a good week and lots of positive thoughts to everyone.

Lea



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