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Jamie's Diary Entries Diary Navigation: Choose A Diary Entry -------------------- Latest Entry: 5/31/00 -------------------- 5/22/00 5/8/00 5/3/00 3/8/00 2/18/00 2/7/00 1/26/00 1/18/00 1/11/00 1/8/00 1/5/00 12/26/99 12/21/99 12/13/99 12/7/99 11/29/99 11/23/99 11/16/99 11/8/99 -------------------- Jamie's Introduction

February 18, 2000

Sorry, I think I missed again last week. I've been so busy lately I always forget until the day after the entries are due.

Well I went to my two doctor's appointments. My ob/gyn told me that the pain with my ovulation is normal and to take Aleve. I'm sorry, but I don't know of anyone else who's ovulation pain lasts for 2 weeks, or is nauseous all the time like I am. So, I went to the RE on Thursday.

Hmm, how to put this nicely? He wasn't a very nice person at all! I had filled out the medical history form and put that my chief complaints were nausea and constant pelvic pain. When I spoke with the nurse, she didn't even look at that and was like why are you here? I told her that pregnancy was supposed to be my treatment for my endo, and since that wasn't working, I think it's time to move on to something else, and although we aren't preventing pg, we aren't really trying either. When I got into the doctor, he started giving me a lecture about how I'm not considered infertile until sometime this summer, and that I can't just come in cuz I'm not pg on the very first try -- this went on for about 10 minutes before I was asked what he could do to make this visit worthwhile to me.

I tried explaining that I was under the impression a Reproductive Endicrinologist could treat my endo, which is what I wanted, and again said we aren't concentrating on TTC right now, just relaxing. Another 10 minute lecture saying he can't just give me a pill and make my endo go away that would still allow me to get pg. I started crying at that point, and that's when he finally let me talk. I said I'm tired of being in pain and nauseous all the time, that even though my doctor told me it's normal to have that pain, I don't think it's normal etc, etc. He then said, "Well I don't mean to chastise you but you should have told the nurse that, that's a whole different focus."

His highness decided to do an exam on me then. I was still crying, and trying to calm myself down. When the nurse came into the exam room a few minutes later to tell me to undress, I just started crying all over again. I finally got calmed down, and he did a very rough exam and vaginal ultrasound. He was freaking me out cuz he couldn't find the right ovary during the exam, or the ultrasound at first. He asked me if the doctor that did my lap removed part or all of my ovary. I was thinking they better not have! He finally found the right one, and then proceeded to jam the probe thingy against my left ovary and uterus. Considering I had this look of pain on my face about 75 percent of the time he was touching me, you'd think he knew he was hurting me. Guess not, though.

Sooo, I'm on the pill starting next cycle, and got some pain medicine to take. Kris and I were definitely not impressed, and wish I didn't have to go back to him. But, the only other RE on our insurance only does infertility, and won't treat endometriosis. I was given the suggestion to talk to my insurance company about asking them to add another doctor to the list.

On the foster care/adoption front, we're almost done with our classes we attend. Yea! We're finding out a lot of interesting stuff. I think most of the people are going just for adopting, although the class is geared mostly to foster care. Kind of backwards, but oh well. We got family pictures done this morning so we'd have pictures to give our case worker. They like to have pictures to show the kids, and they also suggest what's called a Lifebook. A lifebook is used to help foster kids and adoptees to have continuity -- pictures with their birth family, pictures with any foster families, school awards, friends and families addresses, stuff like that. When they move around a lot, those kinds of things tend to get lost. Foster families and adoptive families are asked to make a lifebook to show foster kids and prospective adoptive kids what the family is like. Just to give them an idea of what kind of things they like to do, what they look like to help them decide if they'd like to be a part of the family. I think it will also give us a chance to have something to remember our foster children by after they've left -- add their pictures in with ours. I've never been big on scrapbooks, and pictures are strung out all over the house, so this will be interesting to put together. Fun, but interesting = ).

OK, this is long enough and it's almost time to start work.

Jamie