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Jamie's Diary Entries Diary Navigation: Choose A Diary Entry -------------------- Latest Entry: 5/31/00 -------------------- 5/22/00 5/8/00 5/3/00 3/8/00 2/18/00 2/7/00 1/26/00 1/18/00 1/11/00 1/8/00 1/5/00 12/26/99 12/21/99 12/13/99 12/7/99 11/29/99 11/23/99 11/16/99 11/8/99 -------------------- Jamie's Introduction

February 7, 2000

I must apologize! I completely forgot about last week's entry. Right now I'm fixing to 'O', I think. I haven't been paying attention to my CD or anything, but I know it's about that time. We're just kind of relaxing, and seeing what happens. To be honest, I don't want to go back to birth control LOL! The pill makes me gain weight, don't get me started on the evils of Depo-Provera, and I'm pretty much afraid to try anything else. And after discovering the pleasures of bd'ing w/o a condom, Kris doesn't ever want to go back, hehe!

OK I just had an interesting moment! Our heater went out the other day, and Kris called the heating people to come over and they said they'd be here at noon today. I wasn't even planning on getting up until 10:30, then taking a shower and cleaning up the house a bit. Well I woke up early and was sitting at the computer in my robe and they showed up at 10:20. I heard them pull up so I ran into my room, grabbed some jeans that turned out to be his, and threw on a shirt. The jeans were falling off of me and I had no time to change them cuz they were knocking at the door. They fixed the heater and were gone by 10:30. ARRRRGGGHHHH! When they came to put the a/c in this summer, they showed up without calling and I was sitting around in my robe then too, and Kris let them in w/o giving me a chance to get dressed that time. He's so silly sometimes! Of course, this is the guy that will answer the door in his boxers and nothing else. But he won't go outside to take the dogs out without a shirt on?!?!?!?! He's a freak, but he's my freak and I love him to death. = )

OK I'm ready for it to be June already so we can have some kids. We still go back and forth about every other day as to which kids we want to adopt etc. It's so hard to decide! They are all so cute. I just can't decide if we should adopt a child of a different race from us. We don't mind color, and neither does Kris' family, but I don't want my family to treat them badly cuz of color. My sister gave me a lecture on how the child would be looked at strange because they have white parents and stuff. I'm a little torn about how I feel about it. We live in a predominantly white area, no friends of color (heck, hardly any friends period LOL!), the elementary school is very disproportionate on white to children of ANY color, and we don't have any groups we belong to to expose children to their own heritage.

Trust me, this was never planned to be this way. It's just the way it turned out. We live in a mobile home park, and I think I've seen two families that aren't Caucasian in the whole park. Sooo, I'm just afraid we wouldn't be able to enforce a child's heritage, and make them secure about who they are and where they come from. I've seen a lot of profiles on African-American children that say the adoptive parents need to be of the same race, or at least be able to support their heritage. From what I've read online, it seems to be a very divided topic. Some adoption professionals say absolutely never let a child be adopted by parents of a different race, others say only as a last resort, and still others say anyone should be able to adopt anyone they want. Any thoughts? What's sad is that most of the children are African-American, and if people say only African-Americans can adopt them, there are going to be a lot of children that never have parents again because of race. Which is what makes it so hard to decide!!!!

OK I guess I'm done. Gotta clean house now yuck!

Jamie