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Men and Fertility Testing

Encouraging Your Husband to Face Fertility Challenges

By Teri Brown

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"As long as a man is conflict and problem avoidant, he will not want to admit he may have a part in it because with knowledge comes responsibility, which means co-joint action, activity and problem solving rather than blaming," Dr. Schreier says.

Getting Past the Blame Game
Dr. Schreier suggests that the woman should take a quiet, low-stress moment to talk about it with her partner, when no one has to run off for a meeting. Put the discussion in context, and start from an understanding that this is what you both want. Depending on your relationship and what works for you in general, implement and approach your partner the way you do when it comes to other sensitive and important issues.

"Show love, care, respect and support," Dr. Schreier says. "Don't blame. Just state your concerns, and present it as a team effort. Blaming yourself – or the other party – does not help, but focusing on finding a solution does." Going to the clinic together to find out what's going on keeps fertility a team effort.

Nicole Brooks from Saskatchewan, Canada, knows how much it means to have her husband be a true partner in the fertility quest. Though they had an older child, getting pregnant a second time turned out to be problematic. "My husband was willing to take a sperm count test when I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome," Brooks says. "The OB/GYN wanted to be sure it was just me and not both of us. My husband and I both wanted a second child, and he wanted to do anything he needed to do for us as a couple to make that happen. He also wanted to do what he could to make me happy, and if him doing a little thing like a sperm count test would make me happy, he would do it. For him, it wasn't a test of manhood but a test to determine whether or not more children were in our future."


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