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How's Your Sex Life?
Great Sex Matters When You're Trying to Conceive
By Jane Merrill
Once, as a patient at Peter Bent Brigham Hospital under the care of an endocrinologist associate with Harvard Medical School, we attempted to trace the cause of my infertility. This doctor said I could have children. He said something like, "But you must ripen like a juicy tomato." He advised a lot of slow touching and massage of my partner. The concept of heating up my inner fires seemed hopelessly indirect.
Fast forward to the late '80s. The conception of Julia, following a cozy Thanksgiving afternoon that included turkey, pecan pie and a bit of frolicking, surprised quite a number of us – all except my Aunt Bernice, who confided that she finally had my cousin (her only child) at 40 by following the doctor's counsels: Hot baths, bedtime hot cocoa and waiting under warm quilts for my uncle to come to bed and embrace her.
In D.H. Lawrence's story The Sun a Manhattan doctor tells a man to take his wife on a sun cure. The couple has a child and would like another. Once the woman, Juliet, feels the sun inside her breasts, a change takes place. "Her heart, that anxious, straining heart, had disappeared altogether, like a flower that falls in the sun, and leaves only a ripe seed-case ... Something deep inside her unfolded and relaxed, and she was given. By some mysterious power inside her, deeper than her known consciousness and will, she was put into connection with the sun, and the stream flowed of itself, from her womb. She herself, her conscious self, was secondary, a secondary person, almost an onlooker. The true Juliet was this dark flow from her deep body to the sun."
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Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 02/24/2010 08:54PM
Hi was just reading through your messages... Why don't you try and ask your doctor about In Vitro procedures. You can read through it on the net and find out more about it. Good luck!
Re: How's Your Sex Life? by joy on 02/23/2010 04:01AM
please send me an advice how to get pregnant
Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 02/09/2010 02:22AM
I have been married for 14 years.I have been to several GYN.Had numerous amount of test ran.I tried clomid several times.I pray continiously.I made up my mind that maybe pregnancy just isn't going to be for me.If any one has any advise I would gladly appreciate it.niceyrae@yahoo.com
Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 01/19/2010 05:18AM
hi ive been trying to get pregnant after an espontaneous abortion for two years now and my gynaecologist said im okay yet i dont ovulate and mesurate regularly please i need an advice cos i really want to be a mother and i ñlove babies.
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Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 03/13/2010 04:03PM
ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE NOT ACTUALLY BEEN TRYING BUT HAVE NOT STOPPED THE ISSUES OF HAPPENING FOR ABOUT 3 OR 4 YEARS. WE HAVE NEVER USED PROTECTION. BUT I AS WELL AS HIM WOULD LIKE A CHILD. I WOULD RATHER HAVE A BABY SOONER THAN LATER. I THINK ITS MORE ME THAN HIM WANTING A BABY. WE DONT DISCUSS HIS PAST BUT I KNOW HE HAD USED SOME ILLEGAL THINGS IN THE PAST AS WELL AS I HAVE .. IM TAKING WHEN WE WERE 16 OR 17. BUT I DONT HAVE THE MONEY FOR US TO GO BE TESTED AND I ACT LIKE ITS NOT A BIG ISSUE FOR ME ON A DAILY BASIC.. BUT ITS EATING ME ALIVE IN THE INSIDE. EACH TIME WE HAVE SEX THATS ALL I THINK ABOUT IF HE CANT FINISH I GET MAD AT HIM AND I AM ALMOST AT MY BRAKING POINT AND JUST IN MY HEAD I KNOW I WILL NEVER BE LUCKY TO HAVE A BEAUITFUL BABY. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE IN HIS FAMILY THAT IS PREGNANT AND EVERYONE KNOWS WE WOULD LOVE TO HAVE ONE, SO I JUST PLAY LIKEK I DONT WANT ONE ANYMORE JUST TO TRY TO MAKE MYSELF THINK THAT BUT I NEVER DO. SOMEONE OUT THERE PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHAT IM DOING WRONG AND JUST SOME ADVICE WOULD HELP ME???????