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How's Your Sex Life?

Great Sex Matters When You're Trying to Conceive

By Jane Merrill

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Frequency
According to The Yale Guide to Women's Reproductive Health (Yale University Press, 2003), 15 percent of infertile couples are diagnosed with unexplained fertility, to which sexual dysfunction is a contributor. The authors recommend copious sex. Every other day is good, as more than once a day lowers the sperm count. Sperm count is high for Orthodox Jews, who have many children because the wife abstains for the first 12 days of her cycle and then intercourse is prescribed.

Evidence-based medicine would discredit the idea of building up lust. However, a study of a group that waits and then enjoys spontaneous, passionate coupling, versus the "Come, sperm donor; do your thing" scenario would be very interesting, as the results would acknowledge the role of enjoyment and high-intensity orgasms in getting the woman pregnant.

Position

Can sexual position help? From India comes indigenous medical manuals that say yes – not Kama Sutra twists but just some gentle hydraulics.

Getting me pregnant took my first husband 10 years. The month we were giving it one last try was when I conceived. Knowing we were about to call it quits, our fertility specialist imparted some extra advice. We should get into the sexual act as heartily as possible, despite its being on command, and I should prop myself up on a pillow, with my legs raised, for at least five minutes after receiving the sperm.

Heat
In the 1970s, a Japanese doctor of traditional medicine, a housekeeper in Iran and a professor of endocrinology at Harvard Medical School all gave me the same advice. Had I listened, I might have saved myself from some harrowing circumstances. The Japanese doctor, a celebrity of alternative macrobiotic diet, examined my eyes and fingernails and asked about my diet, exercise and sex life. To warm up my hormones, he prescribed a daily appetizer of spicy umabashi plum. I tried it once but scoffed. Living in Iran, I tasted the torshi, a hot pickle the housekeeper made, but forgot to take it consistently.


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Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 03/13/2010 04:03PM

ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE NOT ACTUALLY BEEN TRYING BUT HAVE NOT STOPPED THE ISSUES OF HAPPENING FOR ABOUT 3 OR 4 YEARS. WE HAVE NEVER USED PROTECTION. BUT I AS WELL AS HIM WOULD LIKE A CHILD. I WOULD RATHER HAVE A BABY SOONER THAN LATER. I THINK ITS MORE ME THAN HIM WANTING A BABY. WE DONT DISCUSS HIS PAST BUT I KNOW HE HAD USED SOME ILLEGAL THINGS IN THE PAST AS WELL AS I HAVE .. IM TAKING WHEN WE WERE 16 OR 17. BUT I DONT HAVE THE MONEY FOR US TO GO BE TESTED AND I ACT LIKE ITS NOT A BIG ISSUE FOR ME ON A DAILY BASIC.. BUT ITS EATING ME ALIVE IN THE INSIDE. EACH TIME WE HAVE SEX THATS ALL I THINK ABOUT IF HE CANT FINISH I GET MAD AT HIM AND I AM ALMOST AT MY BRAKING POINT AND JUST IN MY HEAD I KNOW I WILL NEVER BE LUCKY TO HAVE A BEAUITFUL BABY. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE IN HIS FAMILY THAT IS PREGNANT AND EVERYONE KNOWS WE WOULD LOVE TO HAVE ONE, SO I JUST PLAY LIKEK I DONT WANT ONE ANYMORE JUST TO TRY TO MAKE MYSELF THINK THAT BUT I NEVER DO. SOMEONE OUT THERE PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHAT IM DOING WRONG AND JUST SOME ADVICE WOULD HELP ME???????

Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 02/24/2010 08:54PM

Hi was just reading through your messages... Why don't you try and ask your doctor about In Vitro procedures. You can read through it on the net and find out more about it. Good luck!

Re: How's Your Sex Life? by joy on 02/23/2010 04:01AM

please send me an advice how to get pregnant

Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 02/09/2010 02:22AM

I have been married for 14 years.I have been to several GYN.Had numerous amount of test ran.I tried clomid several times.I pray continiously.I made up my mind that maybe pregnancy just isn't going to be for me.If any one has any advise I would gladly appreciate it.niceyrae@yahoo.com

Re: How's Your Sex Life? by anonymous on 01/19/2010 05:18AM

hi ive been trying to get pregnant after an espontaneous abortion for two years now and my gynaecologist said im okay yet i dont ovulate and mesurate regularly please i need an advice cos i really want to be a mother and i ñlove babies.

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