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Holiday Preconception Prep

Tips for Avoiding the Top 3 Seasonal Fertility Traps

By Kim Seidel

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  • If anyone tries to pressure you, tell them you're high on life, Sherman says. "If you receive outside pressure to drink, you can make a joke to deflect it and say, 'Wow, I thought that type of peer pressure stopped at 21.' Remember that you are responsible for doing what is good for you – and your future baby. No one else can make those choices for you."
    • Trap No. 3: The Family

    It's a difficult trap, because families typically have traditions for the holidays, Davidson says. Yet these times are child-centered, and that can be "very painful" for the couple longing to have a child and working on it, she says.

    "It's totally OK to miss events that are going to bring you down," Williams says. "I don't think it's healthy to put yourself into a situation that you know will be negative, even if it's a holiday celebration. Start a new tradition if needed. Avoid situations or people that pull down your energy."

    You can opt out of family gatherings, either by going away together as a couple or limiting the family time, Davidson says. You also can consider staying at a hotel so you have an escape zone, she says.

    Prepare responses to those anticipated questions: "Any news? Are you ever going to have a baby? Time is passing; you don't have forever."

    One approach is to be "kind but firm," Davidson says. Responses could go something like: "We love that you care about me, but I'm not comfortable talking about that, especially now when I just want to enjoy the holidays with you."

    "Play around with things to say, write them on 3-by-5 cards and bring them with you," Davidson says. "Above all, do your best to enjoy the spirit of the season. If you think you need more help, get it."


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