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A Dream Come True

The Same-sex Couple's Guide to Surrogacy

By Sharon LaMothe

Once the pregnancy has been achieved, your surrogate will eventually be released to her own OB. The rest of your relationship depends largely on what was agreed upon in your contract and what boundaries, if any, have been established thus far. Relationship management is key as is a good escrow account to separate the financial from the interpersonal relationship of the surrogacy experience.

When the time has come for the baby or babies to be born, your relationship with your surrogate will be well established. You will have a good sense as to what type of relationship you want after your child/ren have been born. This is a time of change in your life as well as your surrogate's. She is focusing on her own family now and you yours. Again, good relationship and expectation management throughout the pregnancy will help this transitional period.

Hopefully this abbreviated guide will give you some insight on the possibility of becoming a family though surrogacy. Please educate yourself and your partner to make sure that this is the best thing for YOUR relationship, as there are many factors to consider including finances, careers and the strength of your commitment to each other while parenting children. Remember, your dream of a family can become a reality with the help of a wonderful, capable woman through surrogacy.

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