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Seeds of Hope

Lubrication for Conception

By Lyn Mettler

It's a familiar scenario to most couples trying to conceive: Your cervical mucus is just right, your ovulation monitor is sounding the alarm, you're experiencing ovulation pain and/or your temperature just dropped. No matter the sign, it's time to have sex.

For many couples, the whole idea of having to have sex sends all the fun right out the window, leaving you and your partner trying to get in the mood the best way you can.

If you're up on your trying-to-conceive literature, you know that lubricants and saliva should not be used when trying to make a baby. And the fact is, according to Dr. Joanna Ellington, CEO of Bio~OriGyn and associate professor of pharmacology at Washington State University, that 75 percent of couples trying to conceive experience vaginal dryness.

"Couples who are attempting to conceive may try to have intercourse more often," says Dr. Randy Morris, a reproductive endocrinologist in Chicago, Ill. "They frequently report a decrease in spontaneity. Males cite difficulty 'performing on demand.' All of these factors may contribute to a generalized decrease in the enjoyment of intercourse with a consequent need for an increase in vaginal lubrication."

Beth Stewart, 33, of Montesano, Wash., has been trying to conceive her third child (she and her husband lost their second to miscarriage) for six months and has experienced it firsthand. "I am someone who needs lube, and it just wasn't working well without it," she says. "It sometimes took us an hour before penetration."

So what's a couple to do? Well, a new product on the market may just be the answer you've been dreaming of: a natural-feeling lubricant that is safe for sperm.

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